Finding Your Interior Design Style After 40: A Journey to Reclaim Yourself
As we move through different stages of life, our sense of self evolves, and so should our living spaces. After 40, many of us find ourselves in a period of reflection—looking to reclaim what may have been lost in the whirlwind of raising children, building careers, and tending to the needs of others. Personally, the last seven years have come with significant growth and change. This midlife period and beyond is a time to reconnect with who we are, discover what truly brings us peace, and create a home that reflects our new identity and perspective. This is not just about following trends but about going deeper.
Your home should tell your story. While understanding traditional design styles is important, they shouldn’t define your entire space. Instead, your space should flow freely, much like your life’s stories do. These pieces of you—your family history, your preferences, and your values—are unique and should be reflected in your home. It also needs to be your sanctuary, a place where you can unwind and be yourself. For further reading, check out my post, How to Create a Calming Home Sanctuary: Simple Steps to Transform Your Space.
Here are five quick tips to help you on your personal journey to reclaim yourself and your space:
1. Breaking Free from the Algorithm Trap
Social media can lead us into repetitive cycles of the same design ideas, driven by trends and algorithms. While it’s tempting to adopt these looks, they don’t necessarily resonate with our true selves. Instead, take a break from social media and start taking inspiration from real-life experiences—whether visiting local galleries, boutiques, or artisan markets. Allow yourself to fall in love with unique pieces that speak to you. Remember, your home should reflect your journey, not the latest trends.
2. Reclaiming Your Space and Identity
After years of focusing on others—whether it’s children, family, or careers—it’s easy to lose sight of our own preferences and style. Now is the time to rediscover that sense of self. Reflect on the textures, colors, and elements that have always brought you joy. Your home should be a reflection of who you are today and be a place that makes you feel grounded and connected to your true self. Try journaling through this process to see if common themes arise. Think back to your childhood bedroom—were there elements that you would still find calming today? Personally, I like to journal first thing in the morning when my mind is fresh and open to the day.
3. Honoring Physical and Emotional Changes
As we age, we evolve, and our physical and emotional needs change. As a woman in my late 40s, I can say from experience that the biological changes I’m going through as I enter menopause have had a significant impact on how I react to and experience my surroundings. We may need spaces that offer more comfort, calm, or ease. For example, I’ve found that a ceiling fan, warm lighting, cooling, and natural fabrics are essential for my bedroom. Having a dedicated space for personal exploration, meditation, or reflection has also become important to me. Take some time to consider how these shifts affect the way you want to feel in your home. Design with an awareness of your current needs, and don’t be afraid to embrace changes that bring you peace and well-being.
4. Connecting to the Earth, Locally
Beyond aesthetics, there’s something deeply enriching about designing with a connection to your local environment. Using locally sourced materials, artisans, and textures can create a home that feels more in sync with nature and your community. Look for ways to incorporate natural elements and local craftsmanship that not only support your local economy but also deepen your connection to the space. I love supporting local artists when purchasing art and accessories—it adds a personal and community-driven touch to my home.
5. Determining Your Personal Sanctuary
Creating a true sanctuary is about going beyond what’s fashionable and tapping into what genuinely makes you feel at peace. Ask yourself what a sanctuary means to you—not what society tells you it should be. What colors and textures do you find grounding? While designing your entire home as a sanctuary may be a luxury, you can always create one within a single room. Consider which space will be your haven—your bathroom, a meditation or art room, or perhaps your bedroom. Your home should be an extension of your heart, a place where you can fully recharge, feel safe, and be your most authentic self.
Conclusion
Your home is an evolving canvas, just like your life. As you embark on this journey to find your design style after 40, give yourself permission to break away from the noise and trends. Dive deeper into who you are, explore local connections, and honor the changes you’ve experienced. By doing so, you’ll create a space that isn’t just beautiful but deeply personal—a true reflection of your journey. Remember, your dream home awaits—it just needs you to define it.
